Where you meet your friend, the manner, circumstances and processes that lead to it is very important. I strongly believe that, friends that are met in a quest to achieve a genuine desire, objective or purpose are people of substance. For instance- you went to college or the university and in pursuing a particular program, you happen to meet a course mate.
You realized later your friend has multiple strengths in the subject you’re pursuing so you got closer, sought help, assistance and guidance from him and not long you began to improve in your chosen field of study. You again realized along the line that he had some good values so you got together around him the more and he imparted your life greatly. Fortunately the friendship progressed steadily and continued even after school and you kept on going in life. This is a good friend and all efforts must be geared towards maintaining the companionship.
People also meet at social gatherings such as parties, weddings, and funerals and at the clubhouse. I would emphasize here that; one must be wary in making friends on such occasions and at such places because of the mood and atmosphere that prevails at the time. Those are programs of merrymaking and fun except for funerals that attract the mood of sadness and sorrowfulness. During parties and weddings, the mood of fun, happiness and love clouds the real attitudes of people you meet.
People look for marriage partners at such functions and the ecstatic and hilarious atmosphere, smiles and joy on the faces of people, may deceive you of the true characters of the friends they make. Don’t get me wrong, you may meet corporate and career people who often have good values and may engage you briefly in such conversation but my point is, the discussions that dominate such occasions are mostly love and affection and you may scarcely finish your talk before you’re interrupted with one item or another. So I advise from experience that, you take time off the program and really aim at knowing the person very well. Such friendships may last or not. That you must bear in mind, see details.
Death spirit hovers during funerals and all manner of spirits. I therefore advise that, if you don’t already know the person before you met at the wake keeping or burial service, you keep mute, observe the ceremony and go back home peacefully. You may not get anybody to engage in fruitful chat at such moments because people are mourning, disturbed and heart ached of the death situation especially if it was one of tragic. Beware of the people you even shake hands with because your enemy may get you that day.